How to talk to others?
Here are some tips:
1- Invoking the intention (Niyya for Muslims)… Is my intention purely for God in this dialogue and this discussion, or not?
2- Taking into account the appropriate circumstance, whether in terms of time, place, or the person interviewed.
3- Knowledge… Do not discuss a topic that you do not know well, and do not defend an idea that you are not convinced of.
4- People are not of the same type, and what is suitable for one person may not be suitable for another.
5- Time must be taken into account...
6- Good listening… A skillful speaker is a good listener, so do not interrupt someone who is being interviewed, but rather listen to him as you would like him to listen to you.
7- Pay attention for yourself during the dialogue... Do you raise your voice? Do you take pride in your knowledge? Do you...
8- Strength of expression, eloquence of the tongue, and good eloquence.
9 - Set examples... The successful speaker and interlocutor is the one who improves setting examples and takes them either as a way to bring his point of view closer to the listener and explain it, or to convince him of his idea.
10- Start your conversation with points of agreement, postulates, and axioms...
11- If you find that the dispute between you and the other party is too big, time does not allow to discuss it, or discussing it with this particular person is a waste of time and effort, then it is better to close the discussion in a tactful manner
12- Beware of being tempted to lose control of your emotional or scientific integrity... and this requires a long psychological training.
13- If your discussion or debate confronts you with something you do not know, do not be shy about asking or clarifying.
14 - If you feel that you have made a mistake, accept your mistake.
15- Do not be intolerant... Intolerance is not accepting the truth when evidence appears.
16- Respect the other party, even if you disagree with him.
17 - Two wisdom that you should not lose sight of when you are discussing, engaging in dialogue, speaking, lecturing, or inviting people.
18 - It is fair that you like the right ideas, good evidence and new information provided by the other party, and this opens the heart of the other party to accept your ideas.
19 - The teacher and the fair communicator discusses with kindness, patience and calmness.
20 - And one of the things that opens the locks of souls is to say to your friend at the beginning of your talk: Allow me to express my point of view on the subject, I may be wrong and I thank you if you would be so kind as to correct me my mistake.
21 - Good call... If you are interviewing a person you do not know before, then addressing him by his name combined with what custom requires his use of a title (as if you say to him, brother of so-and-so, or professor of so-and-so, or father of so-and-so) indicates good care, so the name of the man is the one I love names to him.
22 - The method of defiance in the discussion, even if it is with a compelling argument and the evidence shown, hates its owner for others, so do not resort to it...because winning hearts is more important than winning positions.
23 - If your friend does not agree with you on your opinion, do not be angry, and do not try to make people believe what you really see is right… because “there is no compulsion in religion,” it is a fortiori that there should not be compulsion in viewpoints.
24 - Sometimes logic and proof do not work, but courtship and charity are useful... At that time, throw the stick of logic and carry the banner of tenderness to win in the field.
25 - It is good for the interlocutor to avoid the pronoun of the speaker in his speech, such as:
I did this- I would like to explain this point, and to avoid using the collective pronoun,
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